I have been neglecting my writing as of late. When I fall behind in my writing, I feel guilty. So, then you aren’t only behind, but you feel bad about being behind.
For the past few weeks, we have been preparing our home to be put on the market. This is no small task, especially when you have two little ones running around. We have been de-cluttering, cleaning, fixing, packing, and stressing. Yes, I said stressing. The process of selling your house, purchasing a different one, and planning a move may be more that I can take. I am a planner. One of those who don’t really like too many surprises. The kind of person who finds a restaurant she likes and then wants to go there again and again. I thrive on routine and knowing where I’m going to land. As you can imagine, moving and house hunting are on the opposite end of my comfort zone.
I have been obsessed with searching for homes online and tracking interest rates. I read up on school districts until I have a headache. I dwell on whether or not we’re doing the right thing. My brain has been overloaded with showings, contracts, and inspectors.
Throughout this process, I become bogged down with anxiety. I wonder if a bigger yard is worth all of this trouble. I question this and that and everything else.
Then, as if a huge lighting bolt struck my head, I realized that I was looking at this process in entirely the wrong way. As I began telling friends and family that our house had sold, I got reactions of, “Congrats!” and “Awesome!” People were happy for us and excited for the next chapter, while I was fixated on all the things that could go wrong.
I think we all need an attitude adjustment once in awhile. Sometimes we need a kick in the rear to wake us up and remind us to appreciate what we have. So, rather than complain that I had to be out of the house for showings, I could have instead looked at it as an opportunity to take the kids to the park. Did I do that? Not really.
I’m vowing to look at this next phase as a chance to find a home that gives our little ones more space to play outside. I will adopt the optimistic attitude instead of the opposite. I will try very, very hard not to worry too much about the unknown and uncertain. I said TRY, because old habits die hard.
How do you give yourself an attitude adjustment?? How do you remind yourself to look at the good rather than the bad? Are you an optimist or a pessimist?