A few months ago, I wrote about my disdain for some of the clothing choices for little girls. I have an opinion on the matter. I have a little girl who is almost two. In my world, the way I dress her sends a message. Of course, right now, she is little and, really, what message does her wardrobe send? As she grows, however, she will associate her clothing with who she is and her outward appearance will shape how she feels about herself. I hope that I can instill in her that the value of who she is lies in the substance of her being. But, I know that life isn’t that simple. Other people will form judgments about who she is based on how she presents herself. It isn’t fair, but it is reality.
I was pretty shocked when I read about a fashion designer in France who has created a line of lingerie for girls, ages 4-12. No, that isn’t a typo. Little bras, camisoles and undies. They call it “loungerie”. Truthfully, I think the line is very chic and cute – for a much older crowd.
I’m not really sure what to think of this epidemic. Clothing for girls is getting more and more adult as time goes on. Would you buy a triangle bra for your four year old? When looking at the images on the designer’s website, I feel like l’m looking at young girls (very young girls, might I add) trying to look like their much older sisters, with their hair done up, makeup applied, and accessories in place. If it doesn’t strike you as disturbing, our culture of sexualizing young children has gotten to you.
I know that I’m American and I don’t live in France. I’m sure they would say that I’m uptight and too conservative. I just don’t understand who is buying lingerie for kids in preschool or elementary school. Where is the market for this? Why does my daughter need frilly undies and a teeny tiny bra?
I want to raise my daughter to be strong minded and intelligent. I want her to respect herself. I want her to cover up, for the love of all that is holy! If she is already prancing around the house dolled up in “loungerie” at the age of five, isn’t it a very slippery slope from then on?
Maybe I am overreacting. Maybe I need to get off of my soapbox. Maybe I’m just tired because my daughter has decided she hates her crib. Regardless, there seems to be a desire of designers and marketers to accelerate the rate at which our little girls grow up. Why? I understand that at the end of the day, it is the choice of the parent. At the same time, if these images are out there, the message seeps into our society that this is appropriate.
What do you think? Does this trend bother you?